Dr. Shefali shares in her book, The Conscious Parent, “when our children see us place the needs of others before our own, they learn that they are to value others more than themselves. When we please others to gain their approval, we may also begin to please our children. Seeking their approval, we cater inordinately to their needs instead of teaching them to take care of their own needs. When we are unable to create healthy boundaries for ourselves, our children learn to disrespect the boundaries of others. Because we constantly give to them without saying “no” when appropriate, they fail to learn the importance of accepting that life itself sometimes says ‘no’ to us.”